so long. farewell. goodbye.

today's my last day at the workplace
i have to stop working to prepare myself for the exam (yeah rite) n then go back to Malaysia after two loooongggg years.
back home, where the heart (aka my lil sis) is.
i'm so relieved that i dont have to work anymore.
so now i have more time for myself.
but i'm also extremely sad to leave the kids behind.
yeah, they're a bunch of noisy, naughty, silly little monsters
but that's what makes them...kids.
no matter how rude or how troublesome they are,
when they hugged you at the end of the day..
that's all that matters.
when they waved at you in the middle of the street or when they stopped by to hug you and smile at you,
you feel..
appreciated.
loved (ok. maybe not)
but yeah,
it's fulfilling.
the job doesnt pay much
and travelling to and from the workplace consumed A LOT of time
and money (for the busfare)
but I would definitely say that among the jobs that I've done (there's 7 of them in total).
this is by far, the best job I've ever had.
and i'm sure gonna miss them a lot.

but not as much as i miss this girl:

my lil sis is no longer lil.booooo

here's something that I wish to share from my experience
for future reference (in case you're gonnna be a parent in the future):
-always pick up your kids early from school. they dont like to be the last one to leave. it's ok to be late every once in a while.not everyday.
-listen to the kids. they have the right to be heard. sometimes, you learn more from the kids than you did from anyone else.
-support them to think and be independent. don't spoon fed them. how do you know that they won't be able to do something if you don't let them try and learn by themselves? you'll be surprised how creative these kids are. even the small ones!
-everyone is different. and different approach is needed for different kids. if your firstborn can read by the age of 3 but the second one doesnt, that doesnt mean that the latter is stupid, you just need a different approach to help he/she to learn.
-be patient. extremely patient.
-always answer their questions. dont just blew them off. even simple questions like "what is she doing outside?". don't say"it's none of your business"(even if it is none of their business). when they asked questions, that means that they want to learn. kids are curious little creatures, give them the necessary information. encourage them to ask more questions , more inquisitive.
-play with them. no matter how busy you are. spend some time with them. they need attention as much as you do. they also have feelings, just like you.

simple stuff.
stuff that you already knew
but believe me, those things are hard to do.


i hope i'm able to work there again next year :)

p/s-goodbye cohort 4. will miss you guys!

beer with me

Yeast, apparently the kiwi accent has been rated the most attractive and prestigious form of English outside the UK in a BBC survey.

Respondents from throughout the UK completed an online survey rating the prestige and social attractiveness of 34 different English accents.

The kiwi "fush and chups" came seven places ahead of Australia's "sex and Seedney" - and nine ahead of the American accent in terms of attractiveness.

for full story, click here

funny ay?

p/s- thanks to kak shark for sharing the link!

usrah minggu lepas: al-hilmi (pun unintended)

ye rakan2 yg memahami (yg xphm, xpyh tny)
gelak dulu puas2
haha

lately ni, well,
kalu refer to my previous posts (oh dh delete aye?)
byk entry yg sgt emo
ye, ak mmg emo pn
(ske aumm2 bab kate yuyu ;p)
tp that doesnt mean that i like to stay that way
korang suke ke org emo?
x kn.
knp org emo?
sbb die kurg al-hilmi.

ape tu al-hilmi?
al-hilmi ialah......

i. Bahasa, iaitu

1. Tenang ketika marah atau menghadapi sesuatu yang tidak disukai. Sedangkan dia mampu untuk marah dan ada kuasa.

2. Tenang dan mendisiplin diri.

3. Akal (rasional). Terdapat dalam al-Quran:

Adakah mereka disuruh oleh akal fikiran mereka melempar­kan tuduhan-tuduhan yang sedemikian itu. (at-Tur: 32)

ii. Al-Halim, Salah Satu Nama Allah

1. Al-Khoththobi berkata: Al-Halim (kata nama @ sifat bagi perkataan al-Hilmi) bermaksud, Yang mempunyai sifat pema'af dan tenang. Tidak digiat atau digugat oleh kema­rahan. Tidak pula dapat diperbodoh oleh kebodohan orang yang bodoh dan tindakan derhaka orang yang der­haka. Yang tenang, iaitu yang tidak gopoh menghukum. Akan tetapi Dia menjadikan bagi tiap-tiap sesuatu itu ukuran tertentu dan ia tunduk kepadanya.

2. Al-Ghazali menambah: Al-Halim bermaksud, Yang tidak dihinggapi rasa marah dan tidak didorong oleh sikap gopoh dan tiada pertimbangan untuk cepat membalas dendam. Sedangkan Dia benar-benar mampu berbuat demikian (membalas dendam).

Dan kalaulah Allah mengirakan kesalahan manusia serta terus menyeksa mereka disebabkan amal-amal jahat yang mereka telah kerjakan, tentulah Dia tidak mem­biarkan tinggal di muka bumi sesuatu makhluk yang bergerak. (Fathir: 45)

- cuba bayangkan, kalau Allah swt tidak bersifat tenang dan pemaaf, kita semua ni yang banyak berdosa ni dah lama dimusnahkan kot. Takutkan?

iii. Sifat Al-Hilmi Pada Manusia

Sifat al-hilmi yang ada pada manusia menunjukkan kesem­purnaan dan penguasaan akal. Ia juga menun­jukkan kekuatan marah mengalah dan tunduk kepada arahan akal.

-kiranya x mengikut nafsu la tapi bertindak berdasarkan akal.kawalan nafsu yg mantap!

ingatkan nk rephrase balik ayat2 ni tp tbe2 malas la pule
knp pentingnya sifat al-Hilmi ni?
rasanya xperlula nk explain berjela2 sbb semua org pn bole fikir kn, knapa perlunya sifat sabar n tenang ni.

tapi kan..
ape tanda2 sifat al-hilmi ni?

1. Bersabar menghadapi gangguan orang-orang yang jahil dan tidak berdendam.

2. Menghormati pandangan orang yang tidak sependapat dengan kita.

3. Berusaha melihat aspek positif yang terdapat dalam pandangan yang tidak selari dengan pandangannya dan mengambil faedah daripadanya.

4. Kurang perbalahan dan pertelingkahan.

5. Dikasihi dan dihormati.

6. Mengaku kesalahan yang dilakukan dan berlaku adil terhadap diri.

tapi tu la kan,
kite ni,
perasaan berubah2.
kdg2 cool, kdg2 rasa cm nk cungkil2 biji mata org pun ade kn,
so ape nk buat bila rasa mcm nk emo, marah, aumm2??

Apakah Tindakan ketika Marah?

1. Berlindung kepada Allah daripada syaitan terkutuk.

2. Jika anda berdiri, duduk. Jika anda duduk, hendaklah ba-ring atau baring menelentang.

3. Tinggalkan tempat itu, jika anda belum merasa tenang.

4. Pergi dan berwuduk.

5. Lakukan solat dua raka'at dan panjangkan sujud.

6. Perbanyakkan do'a yang ma`tsur. Iaitu "Ya Allah, ya Tuhan kami, Tuhan nabi Muhammad s.a.w.. Ampunkan dosaku, hilangkan kemarahan hatiku dan peliharalah aku daripada kesesatan fitnah.”(cantik kan ayat dia?)

ye rakan2.
itulah al-hilmi
kalu nk suami penyabar
mungkin kne cari yg bernama hilmi kot? (pun intended)
or maybe not
haha

ok the point is,
kita haruslah tenang dan sabar ketika marah, walaupun kita sebenarnya berhak untuk rasa marah.
gunakan akal yang rasional, xpayah nk kalut2.
ingat ye, "sabar itu adalah pada permulaan".
so first reaction kita adalah sabar yeh.
tapi sabar pun berpada2.
jgnlah sampai kita ditindas or sampai kita diperbodohkan yeh.
berbaliklah semula kepada menggunakan akal yg rasional itu :)

selamat beramal!

a breath of fresh air

talking to someone outside your circle of friends is indeed amazing.
sometimes, that is (not all the time. depending on who you're talking to really)

the thing with hanging out with the same group of friends is,
eventually, you guys are so used to each other, and you know almost everything about each other, you ran out of topics to talk about.
interesting topics, i mean.
on top of that, since we always hang out together,
we tend to act, behave and think alike.
don't get me wrong,
i love my friends and wouldn't trade them for the world,
but sometimes,
having the same conversation,
doing the same activities,
posing for pictures the same way,
going to the same place over and over again can get pretty tedious.

you know what makes life more exciting?
well, it's the same old cliche:
trying something different,
challenges blablabla

but i guess it's true.
yesterday, i went to work at another branch of my after school care company in wadestown (i work in newlands).
since there's only 3 kids left, i get to talk with the other guy who work there.
we talk about work mostly and his ideas and visions simply just blew me away.
he's so passionate and and enthusiastic about his job that i feel embarrassed of my own attitude towards my job.
and his view on life is amazingly positive.
i won't go into details of our conversation,
but
talking to other people certainly allows you to explore different point of view.
fresh perspectives.
new ideas.
widen your horizon.
exciting.
spiced up ur life al lil bit.
that sorta thing.
suddenly you realized that there's a whole new world.
and you kinda appreciate your differences as well.
but most importantly, it gets you to THINK.
which i seem to have neglected recently.
poor brain of mine :(

and yeah, well you don't just agree with everyone.
sometimes, you end up meeting a person who has very different views.
that will lead to a debate (again, it depends on the person and topic).
a healthy one that is.
which is better coz then you started to think and justify your beliefs or things that you seem to take for granted.

the point is,
meeting someone else every once in a while is refreshing.
but having someone that you love and comfortable with by your side all the time is priceless :)


p/s: new people= interesting=exciting= might also be a formula for an affair.
well that's one of the excuse from people who has a mistress or something like that.
i'm just saying ;P