Friday, September 11, 2015

Cognitive dissonance

Im writing this as i am currently overwhelmed with mixed emotions

I just came back from college as one on the judges for talentime competition
For the first time in 5 semesters, I was invited to be the judge
So yeah
I did enjoy myself at first
I was having fun, singing along with the kids, relieving my teenage years where we all had crushes etc
But as the show continues and they started to dim the light , then it hit me
It's Friday night. People usually recite Yasin on a Friday night
But here
The kids just sit wherever they like, regardless of gender
It's an enclosed space
Some of them were wearing inappropriate attires
Some of them were dancing like they're in a club
And i was there
Sitting there
And do nothing
I'm actually endorsing this right?
Which btw, totally against my beliefs

I fancy myself as more open minded than most people
Open as in accepting people's differences
Differences in opinions and ideas
But there's a line
I can be open but what God says is wrong is still wrong

I'm all about showcasing ur talents
Go ahead
I was an attention seeker myself when I was young
I used to love being in the spotlight, I still do
But there should be some boundaries
And people should have some shame

malu
Malu tu sebahagian dari iman
Sadly, without we realized it, the media (or u know, the power behind the media) is trying to manipulate us to buang sifat malu tu
And they are very successful in that
Just look at our entertainment shows like AF or Kilauan Emas,org dh x malu dh, yg dh tua, yg mmg xboleh nyanyi pun dgn yakin tnpa malu pegi audition
Look at social media
Instagram etc
People just simply share their selfies, their intimate pictures, videos with the whole world
I mean really, if u faham betul2 malu tu sebahagian dari iman, these things wont happened
Im not good at explaining this
But malu tu penting

Yes, malu bertanya sesat jalan
Jgn malu nk speak up and voice out your opinions
Jgn malu nk join debate etc
Jgn malu nk present in public
Jgn malu nk pegi interview
Byk bnde positif yg kite x perlu malu

But malulah nk share semua pasal kite to the public
Malulah nk share ur aurat to the world
Malulah nk menari terkinja2 dpn org
Kena malu
Kalau x malu dgn manusia, kena malu dgn Allah

I was really shocked la tonight
At the end, they turned off the lights and started dancing like they were in the club
And the other teachers were ok with it
Immediately i changed to warden mode and turn the lights back on myself and asked them to leave
There should be some boundaries
And there were other cases where I disagree with other English teachers
I mean yeah, we can have fun but...
Yeah jgn jadi jumud but please, xpyhla nk jadi jahil juga kot

In the end, we as teachers, we will be held responsible for the students
I think ramai x sedar tu
Being a teacher is not just about teaching ur subject
U kne guide them utk bentuk sahsiah, betulkan yg salah
Omg, i takut ok
Dosa i sendiri pun byk
And i am partly responsible for my students as well kalau i x tegur diorg when they are wrong
Lagila when I am together with them and see it happening with my own eyes
Thats why I always avoid going to the mall on weekends or stay connected with them on social media
Because I dont want to know how they are like outside the classroom
I dont want to feel guilty about not correcting them
Yeah, I know that's not the right thing to do either

It's really really hard
U want to be the fun type
U want the students to like you
But u also know what's right and wrong
U also want to be a good muslim and i want them to be good muslims too
Because we believe in the Hereafter


And yeah, the students are still young
I did silly stuff when i was young too
But I really wished there was someone who pulled me away from making those mistakes back then
Now as a teacher, I have the chance to do that
But tonight, I think I've failed


#uneditedrant